Guest Blogger Kweli Kitwana prepares a table before us replete with the love and care that we need to apply to our lives daily. Sometimes it’s the simple indulgences and the simple activities that bring us the most joy.
Would you take the time to prepare a beautiful tray of food for yourself? You know — those special trays of foods, laid out perfectly and thoughtfully to impress others but now we are aiming to do it for for ourselves?
We spend an enormous amount of time “pleasing” others. Whether it’s our partners, family or friends, it’s not common to take extra steps to ensure their enjoyment and pleasures of indulgence.
But what about yourself? Would you make these same efforts to bring this same joy to yourself? I often hear myself saying these words, “I get much pleasure from doing things for others.”
Believe me, I truly like to do things for me — without fanfare or exhibition, but as I prepare a tray of snacks for my reading ritual, I am very conscious that I am doing this for me. Each choice of food that I make, every piece that I slice and even right down to the arrangement of my snacks, the personal choices I make to please and stimulate my loving heart for myself are consciously done.
We don’t need to eat out of bags or over sinks just because we are not in the presence of others. We can take time to mindfully care for ourselves because WE DESERVE IT!
Kweli is an artist living in the Bay Area and committed to getting the most out of life.
The beauty that I am speaking of is the beauty that is inherent in almost everything we do — even if we are not consciously aware of it.
With many of our burdens lifted at this stage of life, we are thinking with greater clarity, we feel with an intensity not experienced before, and we view problems differently and handle them knowing that the end of the world is not forthcoming.
Rather than being counseled, we now counsel and mentor others. Rather than trying to solve problems on our own, we engage the strengths of others thereby sending out the signal that they, too, have the wherewithal to survive and thrive. Rather than mull a potential decision in our heads over and over, we make the best possible decision based on the best information we have available at the time.
We are not looking to get anything from others, nor do we have hard core expectations. We are more about the business of giving than expecting anything in return, especially for that which we gladly share freely.
We now know through our increased confidence that as women age 50+, we take life as it comes, and we search (not in desperation or anxiety anymore) for meaning in the smallest of gestures and acts.
We are certainly more grateful for the life we have and we no longer yearn for the life we once thought we should have. A light and ephemeral silhouette of all of our experiences now engulfs us, and we are now able to radiate it out to all that come into contact with us.
And for this we are grateful.